Harvard Women's Health Watch

How can I help my daughter deal with her miscarriage?

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Q. My daughter had a miscarriage a few months ago and since then she has been depressed and withdrawn. Do you know anything I can do to help?

A. Miscarriage can involve a difficult emotional recovery, and many women and their partners are surprised at the intensity of their feelings. Many women who have experienced a miscarriage feel that they have done something wrong. They may worry that the miscarriage resulted from stress or lifestyle choices they made during pregnancy. In fact, most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities, structural abnormalities of the uterus, or maternal endocrine or autoimmune disorders.

Here's what we would tell your daughter:

"Nothing you did caused this miscarriage, and nothing you could have done would have prevented it. If you had been perfectly still in bed, were totally relaxed, and ate nothing but healthy foods, you would still have had a miscarriage. There is no reason to feel ashamed or alone. You will be surprised at how many of your close friends and family members have experienced miscarriage. Share this experience with them."

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