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I love my kids but they’ve ruined my neck

November 9, 2017

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Steve Calechman, Guest Contributor

Steve Calechman is a contributing editor for Men’s Health, a writer for MIT’s Industrial Liaison Program, and his work has appeared in The Boston Globe Magazine, Greentech Media, Fatherly, and BabyCenter. For over 25 years as … See Full Bio
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November 25, 2017

Get an.MRI. You are very strange in blaming your children. That’s awful!!- You probably had a neck injury sometime in.your life. Get it evaluated.

Nitin Sewduth
November 21, 2017

I have banned the use of pillows for me and my younger son borned after this ban. He is now nearly 19 yrs and have never used any pillow. Unfortunately i could not impose it on my wife and my elder son because they were used to a pillow and never suffered any neck problem. I sincerely believe that new born should not be initiated to the use of pillow.

Jackie Chubb
November 21, 2017

You could buy a resistance band and fix it to something high and do a pulldown. Or put it around a door handle to do the seated row – or hook it over your feet. Make sure it is securely fastened otherwise it’ll sting if it pings off!!!

Marie Garcia
November 20, 2017

You are blessed to have children…they are a “gift from God”. As parents, we a have challeges everyday. Years from now, you do not want your adult children to think they were the cause of your emotional or physical pain. count your blessings..always. Mother of four, two in “little Angels” in Heaven.

November 20, 2017

I have two kids and a computer based job and you’re right, my neck is ruined. It started with breast-feeding and has just continued from there. These are great tips though and I’ll definitely be trying them out.

El Brocko
November 20, 2017

I learned this from a chiropractor many years ago and I find it’s very helpful. Roll up a towel to about a 4 inch diameter. I guess the diameter could differ based on your size. Lie flat on your back and place the towel at the base of your neck where it joins your shoulders. Lie this way for 10 to 20 minutes, frequently, based on the level of your pain. I often take a 20-minute nap in the middle of the day this way.

November 17, 2017

“Do lat pulldowns or seated rows ” might be helpful if these were defined and described, I have no idea what kind of exercise the author is describing.

Steve Calechman
November 17, 2017

That’s a great point, and it’s difficult to describe an exercise in writing, even for someone who’s comfortable in the gym. For someone who’s unfamiliar with the terminology, the best thing is to work with a personal trainer who can show proper form and then observe you. – Steve

November 20, 2017

You need gym equipment to do these:
I wonder what good alternatives there are if you don’t belong to a gym?

alexis jones
November 29, 2017

azure —- see response below to Julie. Both exercises are described.

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