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When caring for a loved one, many caregivers go it alone
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i believe that these old respected people with dementia or Alzheimer can be well treated at homes to and their own children can be the best caregivers to them. your post was worth reading Heidi, specially for those like me who give care to their ill-elders at home.
I’ve found that a of caregivers can ease the stress of these big responsibilities by allowing themselves to “get out” of the home every once and while. By using some sort of CCTV video monitoring system you can easily watch over your loved ones. I recent bought my own system so that when I’m out of the house I can watch over my grandma even with audio. I bought a system for about $600 with installation. Do yourself a favor and your loved and make the investment.
all will come back to us, when we can take care of our parents with love, I guess indirectly we will also teach our children to love us, and this will be very useful when we are old, our children will be happy to take care of us
It’s sad to see. My mother took care of my grand father (dementia) and I had a close family friend whose parents took care of their grandmother (Alzheimer’s). It’s sweet to see people rally around their family, but it’s sad when you see people going it alone.
All the best,
Having helped my mother care for my dad until he died, and now faced with helping my elderly mother, I don’t think our society has perceptibly changed since my mother cared for both of my grandmothers. If you can afford it, you can hire care. My father’s care cost $50,000 out of pocket in his last year of life. Fortunately, my mother had me to get him a wheelchair when he couldn’t walk, pick up his medicines when he was running out, help her plan his funeral one Christmas eve. Medicare covered his hospital bed, but as for round-the-clock care, my mother was on her own. We checked with agencies, the VA, and others and we did not find anyone who could provide relief for my mother. My husband and I were the relief while working full time and raising three children. The stress on all of us was huge, even on my children who couldn’t understand why I was never home during the last six weeks of my father’s life. At that time, my supervisor pressured me to be more productive. I don’t regret anything I did during my dad’s illness to help my parents. But when someone is seriously ill or impaired, you are on your own.
Ironic isn’t? I was a health reporter too, but I had to leave my job because I had been absent or late too many times because of emergencies caring for my mother, brother and now my father. Employers have their limits on tolerance despite the benefits of the Family Medical Leave Act. In my situation, the care of my mother and brother went on for several years before they died within a two year period of each other. Now the focus is on my very elderly father with dementia. I have had a wonderful caregiving assistant to help me five days a week. Even with supposed tax breaks for “out of pocket” medical expenses for their care, I still had to dip into savings to pay her while I worked full time. I don’t know what I would have done without her, but paying her salary has meant the complete drain of my retirement savings and now the sale of the house my family has lived in for more than 60 years. Now here’s the irony: I had a demanding career in journalism and never married or had children. So, after caring for everyone else, who will take care of me when my time comes?
Thank you for the good advice.
I think the people have to care about themself and forget the sugar. Thank you for the good advice.
“elderly caregivers who are so distraught they [attempt] suicide just to get out of the situation.” No one attempts suicide to “just” do anything. Perhaps part of the medical establishment’s problem with overlooking caregiver burden lies in the enduring stigma against mental illness. Your article, although meant to raise awareness of the sacrifice and struggle of those who care for ailing family members, perpetuates the negative bias against those who are mentally ill.
Agree with Dr. Fabiny.
Good advice and information thanks
Thank sticking to all the information
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