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April 09, 2019

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RumaHome
April 15, 2019

“Getting out of your head” YES! indeed this phase is surely hard. overthink is just cant get away easily

azure
April 09, 2019

“You feel heard, seen, and respected,” Lazar says. Really? That’s a major assumption that if you “engage with others” you WILL feel heard, seen and respected.

My own experience and that of others suggests one is just as likely to feel: ignored or “disrespected”, not heard and sometimes, barely seen. The Harvard prof must live an interesting life if that’s how he feels after every “engagement.”

People in “customer service” (sometimes today a euphemism for dealing with someone who’s overworked, underpaid, and the person who gets to implement unpopular corporate policies w/an unhappy public. Or who isn’t all that interested in assisting or who, if you’re not going to buy something, doesn’t want to waste any more of his/her time w/you. “Friendliness” is for paying customers.

Might be better off volunteering in an area of interest. Lately I’ve read that some people have the greatest success in establishing some kind of social contact (that may eventually lead to friendship/development of a social network) with people at dog parks. It’s a location & activity that lends itself to a low key form of casual social contact: a ready source of mutual interest is present, and it’s easy to just say hello & tend to/watch one’s dog until/unless one feels like chatting a bit more. Unless you’re trying to “communicate” that it’s not ok that the other’s person’s dog is harassing every other dog present.

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